When it comes to major life events, moving is among the most stressful. Moving day to me always seems to come up like a fast-moving storm and we are so busy being immersed in boxes, movers, and setting up appointments with utility companies that it is often easy to overlook the other members of our family and how the move may be affecting them.
If you are contemplating moving soon, it is smart to consider the impact a move will have on your youngsters well in advance of moving day. Will they be changing schools? Possibly losing long-time friends? Are they happy with the move or not actively involved in the decision? Having them help in some way, whether it is packing their favorite toys or picking out the color of their new room, can help to ease the transition. No matter what their age, making their new room have a small surprise moving day can also make it seem more friendly.
Try to minimize any negative effects by talking with your family members about their worries. Even very young children can become fearful or insecure if they see familiar pictures taken down from walls and rooms in the old house filling with boxes. They can worry they will lose their cherished possessions as they are packed in preparation for the move.
When I was a pre-schooler I can still remember that the teachers had each one of us "move" an entire red wagon full of pre-school possessions to the new location down the street. It was exciting for all of us to be a part of it and left me with a good memory instead of fear of the new surroundings.
For grade school children see if it is possible on the weekend (when the school is not busy) to walk around the school grounds. Many public schools have parks that are open on the weekend, and it is a great way for a child to be less fearful the first day of school when he or she has a memory of playing there with a parent.
Elderly family members involved in a move also have worries. Imagine moving in with your children or into a retirement home after living for 20+ years in the same house.
Pamela Blankenship, Realtor
Century 21 Adobe Realty
5627 Kanan Road, Agoura Hills
Cell: (818) 879-1888
Office: (818) 874-1234