I am dismayed to hear of this terrible tragedy and heartbroken for Dan's family and friends. I am so concerned about many of our teenagers and the situations that make them feel they must resort to taking their young lives. What, as a community, can we do to better support them so that more of these situations are prevented? God bless you, Dan.

We have lost three young lives within a six day period. Needless to say our small community is in a state of shock. We should try not to place blame at this point because it won't bring them back nor will it help the families mourning their loss. However, we should pull together as our community always does when the need arises and focus to provide support to anyone who is having trouble coping.

Terrible and sad news. How could Dan have thought his grades were more important than his life? I pray for his family and friends.....

Take a lesson from Palo Alto . . . !!

It is truly heartbreaking! Heartbreaking for this young mans family, friends, class mates and our community. I hope EVERY parent takes the opportunity to STRESS that there is nothing more important to us than THEM! To take the opportunity to tell them how MUCH we love them... To let them know we understand that their feelings can get magnified about things.... about grades, or relationships or making the team or whatever BUT we should make sure they KNOW that we are here for them no matter what. The feelings they have that seem so important today wont be that important tomorrow it will pass.... God Bless to his family and to his friends.

Dan worked at Jack in the Box and my daughter, who went to school with Dan, would see him often there going through the drive-thru. My daughter, Blair, also saw Dan often at school. Dan was such a nice, "good" kid, and I remember being so impressed by his polite, easy going manner and the fact that he was working and going to school. He always seemed to have a smile. My daughter and I were shocked that this happened, and I am so very sorry for Dan and for his family. Although we did not know him extremely well he impressed us. And, he seemed to be a wonderful person. We would have never, ever guessed that he was in such distress.

P.S. We did not hear that Dan sent text messages, though he may have. What is confusing is that another person from Agoura, Josh Feinburg, had supposedly texted that he was upset about his grades before he jumped off of a damn in Malibu last week. I'm not sure if they both texted re: grades or if the 2 stories were blended.

I didn't know Dan so the advice that follows may not apply to him but as the parent of five grown children I would like to share something I have learned about child rearing. Parents need to be sure that their kids know that their love is completely, I repeat competely, unconditonal. Grades, success in athletics, popularity, looks, etc. don't matter, we, your parents, will love you and repect you regardless of your success or failures in life. To do otherwise is very risky and somethimes fatal. Also, kids need to know that everyone occasionally fails and that many times the lessons learned from failure are the roots of later triumps.

I just heard something, that IF true, gave me goose bumps! A few years back there was a child that punched an AYSO referee (of course no name was released because he was a minor) ... I am sure many may remember that incident. At that time I was so concerned for that child's welfare. It seemed to me to be a huge red flag of A problem. What the problem was doesn't really matter. It could have been any number of situations such as an emotional problem, a substance abuse problem, a problem with the home life etc...What gave me the goose bumps was I was told recently that the child that punched the AYSO ref was Dan Behar IF what I was told was true.... We as a community missed an opportunity to maybe have done something to prevent this very tragic situation!

Bambi, you have no business speculating and posting it on this site. Please remove your post. Completely inappropriate.

Mary, first I am sorry if you were offended or upset by my comment. NOT the intent. My comment was merely my belief that we should be aware as a community of "red flag" behaviors. I stated that 1- I don't know if Dan was in fact the same child involved in the AYSO incident but rather IF he was that same child we may have missed an opportunity to have helped & 2 I used examples of some of the kinds of problems a child MIGHT be facing that could be at the root of the "red flag" behavior, unfortunately there are many other types of challenges such as bullying and a whole other host of problems those was JUST examples. This comment was not only about Dan or the AYSO child if they are not one in the same BUT about my belief that "red flag" signs should serve as a warning to parents, teachers, friends and communities as a call to duty to try to protect and help our children!

If he used any antidepressants?????